Forgiveness is not approval



The Forgiveness Road: Eliminating Judgement
February 22, 2018 By Kathleen Mary Willis

Voice of Freedom.ca

Shooters gunning down children, war, pedophilia, the opioid crisis — how do we forgive?

We know a place of balance is in detachment and attachment to the highest vision.

But what if the action is so heinous, we get caught in the wheel of judgement, anger, hatred, fear. . . ?

Archangel Michael, interviewed by Steve, February 12th on An Hour With An Angel told us:

“Forgiveness is not about liking everybody. It is about being the Love.” (1)

I’m feeling judgement for external patriarchal control, in the without, not the people, but the behaviour, the actions.

But as within, so without. . .

So what am I judging within?
Where is my own control within?
What am I afraid to forgive?
My own experiences
not of love?

Archangel Michael says we, as lightworkers, are forgiving “our not expressing and experiencing” ourselves “as Divine Perfection,” of “allowing” ourselves “that scenic detour to be less than:”

“What you are doing is you are taking the Mother’s and the Father’s Essence of Forgiveness. One of their Divine Expressions, and bringing it down. And anchoring that forgiveness, that sense of deep compassion and awareness of gentleness, kindness.

“Forgiveness is never permission other than permission to surrender.

“So, you are anchoring that. And in anchoring that you are beginning to feel and to know and experience the forgiveness of your sacred self.

“Your inclination may be, ‘I forgive myself for not being perfect,’ but that would be erroneous.

“What you are forgiving is your not expressing and experiencing yourself as Divine Perfection, of allowing yourself that scenic detour to be less than.

“And you look at that, and you let it go. You forgive it.

“Forgiveness has the ability of elimination: more organic change, the dissolving of what may have felt like a huge boulder, which you have experienced. and allowing it to dissolve.

“Then you take that, and in that you can begin to forgive externally. In the without as well.”


So I wrote down the internal and external things I judge/am here to forgive:

I judge/am here to forgive
my scenic detours,
over lifetimes.
I Am the Love

I judge/am here to forgive myself,
for not expressing and experiencing
my self as Divine Perfection
this life, many lifetimes.
I Am the Love

I judge/am here to forgive the people waging war, who rape,
are involved in pedophilia, trafficking, the opioid crisis.
I Am the Love

I judge/am here to forgive shooters gunning down school children.
I Am the Love

As lightworkers, Loveholders, gatekeepers, pillars,
forgiving ourselves within creates
change in the without;
as within, so without.


Archangel Michael says that heinous behaviour is not something to like:

“Now, let us go back. Do you think that when we or the Mother observe some heinous behaviour that she likes it? No. That she likes the person acting that way? No. But the Love for the Divine Expression is always there.

“So, it is not really about…it is almost, might I suggest today, insignificant whether you like or dislike an individual or a group of people. That is you, that is your personality. And when I say you, I mean all of you who are listening this night. That is your personal preferences based on your life experience, your many life experiences, your culture, your acclimatization to society or to institution. It is simply personal choice. Love overrides that.

“Let me repeat: Forgiveness is not permission.

“So, when you forgive yourself or, let us be very particular, when you are forgiving someone you dislike, you are not saying, ‘Let’s have dinner together’. You are not saying, ‘I have a spare room in my house, come and live with me.’ You are not saying, ‘Be my best friend.’

“The gift of forgiveness is to yourself. Because carrying around a burden of what you feel is injury, because that is really what it is about, is injury to your sacred self. So, that is why I suggest to you, I tell you, the forgiveness begins with yourself. And then you can move out to the outer realm as it were. But it has nothing to do with liking or disliking. And I am not suggesting to you (this is a good topic), that forgiveness eradicates boundaries.”

The gift of forgiveness is to me. . . in unity, connectedness, balance.

Archangel Michael reminds us again that forgiveness is never permission:

“Now, more than ever in this time of new beginning, in this process of creating, and co-creating Nova Earth, in this time of a unified grid, boundaries are more important than ever. Because as you are progressing what you are saying — passively, actively, silently, or in heart speaking — you are saying, ‘This is acceptable, and this is not acceptable. And invading my values, my heart, my Love, my sacred being is not acceptable.’

“As Yeshua has often said, and I will repeat, ‘Turn the other cheek,’ which is forgiveness, does not mean that you will allow that individual, or that group, or that energy to beat you up.

“That is not acceptable. And that is why we say, ‘Forgiveness is never permission.’ It is simply lightening your load, your burden. So, when you dig deeper, beloved, when you say, ‘I really am having trouble forgiving this or that person, and what will happen if I do extend an apology?’ And the apology does not always need to be in person, or even spoken. But what will happen?

“I ask of you. All of you. What are you afraid of? It comes back to where we have started this conversation. And it is that those that are reluctant and recalcitrant are in fear.”

From personal experience apologies are wondrous, whether one is asking or receiving, when guided, I highly recommend proceeding.

However, with my issue of judgement of control, I feel there’s more. . . What to do?

Archangel Michael says:

“Now I have this new mechanism that I would like to suggest to each and every one of you who may be caught in this tricky recalcitrant position. And I will share it with you.

“Ask for help.

“Yes, my friends. If you feel stuck, this is not about you always demonstrating Herculean strength, determination, fortitude. This is not about flexing your Divine Muscles.

“Ask for help.

“We are Legion. When you say to us, when you say to the Mother, when you say to Gabrielle, or Raphael, or Uriel, ‘I am stuck. It is too much. I am giving this to you. Help me,’ it will be over in an instant.

“If it takes a little time, it is because there is an understanding not lesson, understanding, a comprehension inside that situation that you need deeper insight into. But when you ask for help, my beloveds, it is a guarantee, we’re there.”

I call on the Mother and the Mighty Ones for help:

I invoke the Mother
and the Mighty Ones for help
for elimination with forgiveness
all futility, judgement, anxiety, doubt,
disappointment, sorrow, shame, anger, fears,
lack of self-love, lack of self-worth,
feelings, thoughts, actions.
There is no hierarchy/control in the higher realms.

Sitting still.

Surrendering.

Feeling the sorrow.

Deeper sorrow, the tears

from this lifetime, past lifetimes.

Allowing, allowing, allowing, allowing,

seeing the scenes, apologizing, forgiving myself.

I Love you, myself
I apologize to you, myself
I forgive you, myself
I Am the Infinite and Eternal Flow
of Apologies, Forgiveness and Gratitude,
Love, Peace and Joy
I feel compassion, kindness for myself, others, LOVE

There is no such thing as mistakes.
The only mistake humans make is in judgement,
when they judge themselves or others to be less than,
when they do not see the glory of their own Divinity,
and that is just sad.

My Principal Guide

Arcturian message on male female balance


Arcturian Group Message 4/9/17
April 9, 2017 by Steve Beckow

APRIL 9, 2017

Greetings dear ones, we come in love and bring guidance for all who are trying so hard to make sense of the world and how it relates to the ascension. Do not believe that there is no progress, for as we have explained before, the dense and heavy energies created by mankind through centuries lived in fear and with closed hearts must clear globally and personally in order for the energies of unconditional love to manifest.

God, Source, Divine Consciousness, or whatever you choose to name IT is whole and complete, an equal balance of masculine and feminine energy. The Divine feminine is the Mother/God aspect of the ONE, while the Divine masculine is the Father/God aspect of the ONE. Much of the world continues to give recognition to and worship only the Father/God aspect, relegating God’s other half to being unimportant or even non existent. Many religions continue even today to promote this grossly false interpretation of truth.

The Divine feminine energies are centered in the heart, flow as unconditional love, and are absolutely necessary to the whole. Without God’s feminine aspect, you have a left brain world of paternalism absent of love which is exactly what you are now witnessing in so many places. Closed hearts are unable to flow the receptive, intuitive, creative energies of the Divine Feminine, resulting in an imbalance and overload of masculine energies–the active, be-er, do-er, law and power energies.

This uneven balance can easily be observed the world over, and is particularly manifest in the middle east where for the most part women still live subject to the dominance and whims of the masculine. At a certain point in everyone’s spiritual evolution there comes an awareness of these imbalances and they begin to intuitively and silently question many concepts and beliefs previously accepted as normal.

Men and women who have lived lifetimes with closed hearts blocking the full expression of the Divine Feminine energies, will find the awakening process to be a confusing and painful time because they have built their identity and self worth upon the myths of the masculine being more important than the feminine. However, the process of opening the heart can only begin when one realizes that it is closed.

Some examples of the personality traits of men or women who have limited themselves only to the masculine are; taking charge of every situation whether or not it is their place, dominating and feeling the need to always tell others what to do, considering self’s opinions and beliefs to be the only correct ones, and holding the attitude of “my way or the highway” regardless of the feelings, needs, or beliefs of others.

Men and women can also be overbalanced with feminine energy which manifests as a person who consistently defers to others in the belief that they are either not worthy of having opinions and choices, or not capable of independent thinking. Because of these beliefs they consistently give their personal power to others. Often they are those who overtly and emotionally “love” everything and everybody in false and often irritating way because there are no qualities of the masculine bringing in balance.

The majority of people are a combination of these qualities with hearts partially open or opening now as the energies of ascension force the clearing of old cellular memory. These imbalances are beginning to be recognized globally and personally because mankind is now evolved enough to correct them. If a spiritually ready and aware person simply ignores the need for incorporating balance into his life, “wake up calls” will ensue–experiences that force the person to utilize the masculine or feminine energies needed.

For example: An overly feminine woman who has always depended upon her husband and others to tell her what to do, may suddenly find herself alone and forced to activate her masculine aspect in order to survive. She is terrified at first, but soon discovers that she can do it. Gradually the old fears dissolve and she graduates out of her previous state of consciousness, evolving into a new and more balanced one.

Individuals who have lived lifetime after lifetime as one gender at some point realize that he/she must live as the other gender in order spiritually evolve into the necessary balance. Thus, he/she chooses to incarnate as the needed gender, but once on earth these dear ones now unaware of their choice, come to believe that there must be a medical reason for their gender confusion.

Gender confusion is the result of individuals experiencing the resonance of dominant energy from past lives still active in cellular memory and then assuming that somehow they are in the wrong body.

Individuals awakening to the truth of balance but who have lived up to now according to strict third dimensional beliefs regarding the roles of men and women, will greatly fear stepping out of the mold. When a person’s family, friends, church, etc. still hold tightly to gender concepts, his awakening must be done quietly within himself. If he does not resist, his consciousness will gently begin to open and shift into a new and higher understanding of the true roles of men and women.

Accepting the feminine as being just as important as the masculine can be an overwhelming process for those raised in societies that promote males as being more valuable than females. However, many are now ready to understand and accept the vital importance of the Divine Mother energy–the receptive, intuitive, creative, unconditional love energies manifesting on all levels–physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Likewise, of equal value and importance are the energies of the Divine masculine–the active, the be-er, the do-er, the thinker. These facets of Divine Father energy are equally necessary to the complete and whole expression of God. They are meant to work in tandem with the feminine so that all actions are tempered with unconditional love.

A balanced woman looks and acts feminine but respects herself, is able to say no, acknowledges her own innate power, and is not afraid to take charge when necessary with actions that reflect the needs, not wants, of all involved. A balanced man is one who makes decisions and enjoys the activities of the masculine but is not afraid to love and be loved, respects others, and does not feel the need to dominate in order to experience self worth.

We do not speak of women trying to be men, or men trying to be women. We speak of mankind’s’ evolution into spiritual wholeness through the acceptance and expression of both halves of the Divine Whole. A balanced woman will continue to look and behave in feminine ways just as the balanced man will continue to act and look masculine, but once both centers are open (left brain and heart) they will be able to live and express both aspect in every situation.

The third dimensional consciousness continues to promote through movies, TV, periodicals, games, and advertising, concepts of “real men” as only those who are tough, dominant, and powerful without consideration of who may be hurt in the process. Many still accept these myths which for the most part are promoted by those who stand to benefit in some way from their continuation.

The reason there are so many military suicides at this time is that after making commitments in the enthusiasm of service, these dear ones often find themselves experiencing great inner conflict because their hearts have begun to open or are already open. They are called heroes back home and fear to disappoint families, friends, and all those dear to them who still hold beliefs of war and violence as being viable solutions. They can find no way out of their dilemma, and so take the only solution they know.

The media continues to promote concepts of the ideal woman as being physically perfect and beautiful but somewhat brainless and in need a man to be of any value. The ideal man is promoted as being physically strong and powerful, taking charge of every situation in “his” way as well as being rich and handsome, and together they live happily ever after. These concepts are quickly disappearing for the majority, but there are still many, even among the evolved, who think of themselves as being “half of a couple” and in need of the “right one” in order to feel whole.

You are and always have been whole and complete with or without another person. Never forget that. Many who have entered in to relationships believing that they would find forever happiness and completeness are now learning the necessary lessons of self-completeness the hard way, through difficult experiences.

There must come to every evolving soul, a time of balancing the masculine and feminine energies that are already present in their fullness within every individual. The masculine self protecting and supporting the feminine self and the feminine self loving and receptive to the ideas of the masculine self, neither subservient to the other.

Over lifetimes of experiences based in duality and separation, individuals learned that life was less painful if they closed their hearts which has resulted in the creations of imbalance you witness in the world today. Much is being written and channeled with regard to having an open heart. These are not just pretty words, for the heart is where the Divine Feminine rests until recognized.

An open heart in balance with the masculine allows the soul to live in its fullness instead of as only a half.

We are the Arcturian Group 4/9/17

For those interested in more information regarding the masculine/feminine energies, Patricia Cota Robles has recently posted a wonderful video on this topic.

https://higherdensity.wordpress.com/2017/04/05/patricia-cota-robles-vlog-4-how-did-we-create-such-a-patriarchal-society-4-2-17/

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